tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22157774.post116559433678786614..comments2023-10-30T06:40:03.350-05:00Comments on Surviving the Chaos: Best FriendsChaos-Jamiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17643470959118675651noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22157774.post-1165938816189672892006-12-12T09:53:00.000-06:002006-12-12T09:53:00.000-06:00If you figure out the answer, let me know. Believ...If you figure out the answer, let me know. Believe me, moving or changing churches doesn't help--I've tried (well, not because I didn't have a go-to person, but moved because of other circumstances). I always think that at the next place, that's where I'll meet the person who will be my best friend for life.<BR/><BR/>You see, I thought I had met that person in college. She initiated the friendship--freaked me out a little in the beginning because she was so intense in pursuing a friendship with me. We were inseparable for the two years before I dropped out of school. Her friendship and prayerful support kept me from doing myseelf harm when I fell into a deep depression. Even after I dropped out and moved hundreds of miles away, we stayed as close as ever with cards and letters and occasional late-night phone chats. Then, several years ago, when I was going through a major crisis in my life, she decided she needed some distance--she couldn't "deal with" my "issues" any longer. Since then, I haven't had that confidante, that "crisis management" person. I have lots of friends, but no one to call my "best" friend.<BR/><BR/>So, I've decided that God is trying to teach me to depend on Him more and on my human friends less. I'm not having much success with it, but just keep praying He will direct me to the right people, the ones He has prepared to have that intimate friendship with. I just hope it happens sooner rather than later.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there and never give up hope. I know it's hard not to feel "used" by your friends who rely on you to do stuff but don't take you into their confidences or see you as someone they can share their inmost needs with. It's not anything you're doing wrong. Remember, everyone else surrounding you is a fallable human creation, too. Maybe it's not just one person you're supposed to have as a go-to. Maybe God has given you so many friends and connections because He wants you to have a large base of go-to people.<BR/><BR/>I'll be praying for you!Kaye Dacushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04187774900100851982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22157774.post-1165933626745764182006-12-12T08:27:00.000-06:002006-12-12T08:27:00.000-06:00Sometimes the person you think has too much to han...Sometimes the person you think has too much to handle is the perfect GO-TO person because he/she is so consumed with stuff it would be a welcome diversion to realize others are struggling as well. <BR/><BR/>What's been so amazing as my sister is recovering from her own 'issues' is the absence of friends I thought would really be there and so I find myself consumed with thoughts and unable to process or move forward because of it!<BR/><BR/>I can totally relate to this post! Even having good friends that I do.kpjarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425417734069925095noreply@blogger.com